Individual Therapy

You know that saying, “Fake it ’til you make it”?

Sounds good, right? Just pretend everything is fine – everything’s going as you planned.

On the outside, things look great. Your friends are always pointing out the positives happening around you.

But they have no idea that you’re breaking down on the inside.

They don’t know about that to-do list that lives in your mind, constantly rearing its ugly head to harass you. You look like you have it all together as you wash the dishes, but you don’t. The grass, the laundry… it’s all growing up and piling up.

You know your partner or roommate has to be thinking something about the mess in your life, but you rush by them to avoid it, finding another task to work on.

And the negative thoughts won’t stop…

Yes, you still have your job, but you didn’t get the one you wanted.

Yes, you have a beautiful family, but it feels rather lonely in that big house.

Yes, people “like” everything you’re doing on social media, but they don’t know the reality behind the posts.

You don’t want to disappoint your friends, family, boss, or coworkers, so you keep “faking it” – day in… and day out.

But the exhaustion and loneliness are getting to you.

“I never imagined landing here, so unhappy and isolated.”

“I hate myself for not being more grateful and ‘looking on the bright side.'”

“Maybe tomorrow will be better.”

“No more online shopping!”

“No more lashing out at loved ones!”

You resolve to change. Meanwhile, you’re losing touch with friends and family. Everyone feels like they’re walking on eggshells around you because they aren’t sure how you’ll react.

You might even fear that you’ll push every good thing in your life away: your job, trivia night with friends… hell, you could even lose your dog if you lose your partner!

It’s time to understand these feelings and get the attention you need for yourself so you can stop feeling like a foreign object in your mind and body.

No more isolation… and no more faking it.

I’m here for you as you are. This is a judgment-free zone, and I’m ready to explore the hard stuff with you.

First, we’ll take out my favorite therapy tool: the feelings wheel. It might sound childish, but it’s very helpful in telling us where your feelings are coming from. You might be surprised that “good” and “okay” aren’t on the wheel.

From there, we can discuss your other layers – your history and day-to-day life. This means exploring what’s triggering various feelings or reactions you might have. You might hear me say, “All feelings are welcome.” This means ALL your feelings – even the ones that seem contradictory on the surface. It’s possible to be happy AND sad about an event… or simultaneously resentful AND jealous of your ex’s “moving on.”

When we label our feelings, we get closer to understanding WHY they’re happening.

Maybe it’s something from childhood?

Perhaps it’s a past relationship?

Maybe a coach you had in the past triggers something in you?

It could be feeling you don’t get the attention you want or need.

None of these things means you’re “being needy.” No, you’re learning your needs. And sometimes all you need is someone to listen to you without offering something “positive” to sweep it away – or without providing a solution.

We can get to that solution when you are ready… because there will be a solution.

You don’t have to do this alone.

Even if you don’t know where to start or what you might say, that’s okay.

You have an idea of where you want to be, and that’s enough for us to build on.

Let’s chat about how I can help you live a better life. Contact me today for a free 20-minute consultation: (484) 800-1432.