Couples Therapy
Things definitely haven’t panned out as you hoped.
Another day with no “goodbye” kiss or “welcome home” hug…
Another misunderstanding over dinner, leading to lonely evenings in separate rooms…
Another battle over how to spend the holidays…
It seems like everything is a head-to-head confrontation, and both of you are keeping score.
About who should do what chore…
About how often you’re intimate…
About who works harder…
And the disagreements go even deeper.
How should you handle your finances?
How should you enforce boundaries with your in-laws?
How should you discipline your children together?
You’re probably wondering how you even got here.
Finding “your person” to share this crazy thing we call life with can be amazing. When you fall in love, you learn about each other: your likes, dislikes, routines, and favorite pastimes. You navigate new seasons together: the ups and downs… the good and the bad. All the while, you cherish everything about your partner. Even their quirks are adorable!
But it’s not always easy to keep the passion and attraction alive and well.
Your relationship can change. In time, you might find yourself eating dinner alone, doing your own things instead of watching shows together at night, and those all-important “date nights” start slipping off the calendar. The isolation sets in, and sometimes it’s too much to bear.
“How did I get here?”
“Was it something I did?”
“Do I seem like a stranger to them the way they do to me now?”
People seek couples therapy for various reasons.
You might want some guidance to resolve conflict that arises with a big change in your life – like a career change or a strained relationship in the family.
Perhaps you’re at the point of taking “the next big step” in your relationship, but you’re not sure if you’re ready to move in together, buy a house, get married, or start a family.
Or maybe you’ve fallen on hard times and can’t seem to work your way through it. External stressors like work or health problems can often cause “marital problems” with sex or parenting.
Whatever the reason, you know the relationship you once had is slipping away… and you don’t want to lose it forever.
Discovering what’s best for you and your relationship…
I’m sure you’ve tried working on things on your own. But, as you know, it doesn’t always help. In fact, it might be making things worse. You’ve put the time in and invested in each other, your family, and your relationship. You deserve to put the time in to see where you are now, what you want, and what you need.
Together, we can see where you both are and chart a course for your future relationship.
We will explore how to respectfully and appropriately share your feelings with each other. That means acknowledging your expectations and what you’re really struggling with in the relationship. We can then understand how you move into the future with goals you both set and agree on.
If it’s decided that this journey has ended, I will be there to support you in doing so appropriately and respectfully.
Understanding and believing that a relationship is over can be difficult and heartbreaking. If you make that decision, we will work together to process it at your own pace and find closure as we move forward.
If you decide to continue the relationship, I will offer encouragement and support while we work together to find out how that works.
Keeping a relationship together after a big event takes a lot of work because you’re both different people than you were when you got together and fell in love. We’ll find new things you might enjoy together and see if you can rediscover the old ones you used to do. Finding ways to reconnect and communicate your needs is a great way to start when embarking on this season of your life and relationship.
Wherever you are in your relationship…
You deserve the space to explore where you want to go.
Let’s chat today to see how you get the secure, trusting relationship back that you once had.
Call me to schedule your free consultation: (484) 800-1432.